“Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is beautiful”
Recently, I wrote an article for Natural Beauty Expert Magazine about how to build Inner Confidence that spills over to outer beauty. Here's a snippet of the article and the full link is at the bottom :)
I have a beautiful friend who doesn’t see anything to admire about herself, who genuinely complains about her body, her weight, who has terribly low self-esteem and cannot accept a compliment. She sees a photo of herself, and sees only what is wrong, what is fat, what is wrong and sees nothing to celebrate. I see the same photo and argue, pointing out what is beautiful and offering reassurances which she cannot receive.
Unfortunately, she isn’t alone in feeling body-loathing, low confidence and not feeling good enough. Never before have we had so much advertising and marketing telling us what and who we need to look like. As Gloria Steinem says ‘Most women’s magazines simply try to mould women into bigger and better consumers.’ Girls and women are told we need to be ‘improved upon’ that we need external products and treatments to be happy, and fit into the jelly mould of female perfection. The rise of the selfie culture and social media externalises merit and worth, creating an obsession around how we are being perceived and if we are being ‘liked’.
Millennials are in particular being affected, with the highest levels of anxiety and depression compared to all other generations. Building esteem and confidence is of vital importance, not only for ourselves; but for our families, friendships, workplaces and communities. The question is how to we build our own confidence, and then allow this to ripple out?
See the full article at: https://naturalbeautyexpert.co/the-beauty-of-inner-confidence/
THE ART OF CONFLICT
I wrote an article for professional beauty, a little while ago, and since then I've had many conversations with my friends about how to resolve conflict from passive aggressive mother in law's, to turbulent romantic relationships, to issues with family. So, based on my memory of Ken Blanchard's book 'The One Minute Manager' that is the basis for all my conflict resolution that I read many, many moons ago (at least ten years), here is the advice I've been sharing with my friends to help give them the skills, confidence and structure to help them face conflict and WIN!!!
It takes 30 days to make a new habit, so for best results monitor this closely for a month. Give praise when you see the other person respecting your new boundary. If they cross it, have another discussion and re-affirm the boundary. And finally, enjoy the more loving, positive and truthful relationship that you’ve co-created!
The full article is here http://professionalbeauty.realviewdigital.com/?iid=150848#folio=112
Much love and light,