I have always used dating as a place of adventure. I’ve dated Australians, Italians, French, Philippine, Sri Lankan, Seychellois,
Maldivian, American, Canadian, British, Irish, Romanian, South African, and sometimes I’ve said yes because I have never been on a date with a man from that particular country. I’ve gone on dates with people because of their occupation, one guy in particular was a Quantum physicist and that intrigued me so much I said yes. I also wanted to ransack his knowledge about the theory of
sound vibration, which I was using in a fiction short story for Uni. I have had the mantra either it will be a good thing (the guy will be great) or a story. And I must have more of an interest in stories than good guys, because generally I’m a one-date wonder, I don’t often give guys a second chance.
This comes back to a previous blog, where I said I put on such a performance that by the end of the date, I’m drained, bored and they actually know nothing about me and so I don’t feel a connection.
My dear friend has recently been teaching me the power of values to attract a more fitting relationship. She believes you need to know what you value, and what values you find attractive in a potential boyfriend/girlfriend. This turns the whole conundrum around. You appreciate people differently. Instead of looking for somebody with certain physical or lifestyle characteristics, you look at what they value and if it resonates with your values.
My friend wrote down five key values, and within a month she had found someone who had those values, and now they have a really healthy, loving, beautiful relationship. So I thought, I’m single – I’m sick of having stories’instead of great guys, so why not give it a go?
Yesterday, I created an image based vision board. I used Google images and found a picture representing Happiness, Honesty, Respect, Spirituality, Love, Sexual Connection/Intimacy, and Marriage. The last one freaks me out a little, it feels like I'm going against my feminist values to admit that i'm, at heart, an old fashioned romantic. That I dream of a guy who loves me, and believes in the love we have between us that he wants to marry me. Corny perhaps but true.
I believe you need to have a direction to achieve. Destiny is not by chance, it’s a choice. So if you haven’t a clear picture of your future, if you want to add some extra power to your goals, why not create your own vision board? Use images and words to create the picture of your future. Think about what you could gain by doing it, because you have nothing to
Here’s to our success - I believe
Penelope Jane Jones.